I’m 67. Since I was 15, I’ve dieted, gained, and lost weight, multiple times. My closet once contained 4 different sizes of clothing that would fit me at different weights. I lost weight (and then gained it back) on Weight Watchers — at least 3 times, Jenny Craig, and by counting calories. When I began my last weight loss journey — in 2019 — my weight was 40 pounds heavier than was healthy for my body. My family history included diabetes, cancer, and heart disease, and I was afraid that I would develop one of these conditions. I was 65…


The Advantage of Thoughtwork

I decided to become a lifecoach because I want to share what I have learned about thoughtwork with others. By learning to believe that “our thoughts create our feelings”, we open our lives to wonderful opportunities and challenges. When we truly believe that by changing our thoughts we can change how we feel and how we show up in the world, we can live better and more authentic lives.

I used to think that I could not lose weight and keep it off. I used to think that it was much harder to lose weight after…


I’ve been a yo-yo dieter since my 20s. I’ve lost weight on many diets — but ultimately regained all of the pounds I had lost and more. I was missing the piece of managing my mind around food.

When I was introduced to Brooke Castillo’s “The Model” for managing my mind and my thinking, that made all of the difference. By learning to think differently, I learned to manage my emotions as well as learning that food did not change my emotional responses.

Coaching was also useful for how I thought about my life, my divorce, and my new challenges…


When my husband and I separated, I was 64 and had not dated since college. I knew few single men my age and knew nothing about where to meet new men. Because there were single men online, I quickly learned about online dating. I also learned that online, there were married men posing as singles, scammers trying to get money from lonely women, and new terms to learn such as catfishing.

Before starting my dating adventures, I listened to dating podcasts. My favorites were Sandy Weiner’s “Your Last First Date” and “Woman of Value” and Jenn Burton’s podcasts about Mantourage…


Talk about doing something outside my comfort zone! I’m a casual sort of girl who wears jeans and turtlenecks at home and corduroys and sweaters at work. I also don’t wear makeup — with the exception of a little powder. I don’t own any dresses and only have 2 skirts that fit — and they haven’t been worn in over a year.

At the suggestion of my dating coach, I made an appointment for boudoir photos, not knowing what to expect. The photographer sent me to a nearby lingerie store, where, with the help of the “grandmotherly” owner, I tried…


I got married at age 21 without a lot of dating experience or boyfriends. After 43 years of marriage, I was 63 and recently single. I had not dated anyone other than my “ex” since age 18. Most of the older single women I knew had decided to stay happily single and were not interested in dating or changing their lifestyles.

I wanted to make new friends and to explore new relationships and dating. I read the blog “Sixty and Me” and learned about Meet-Ups as excellent places to meet others. I joined a group for single older adults and…


I was happily married for 41 of our 43 years married. I trusted my husband — whom I had met in high school — and loved my life. After my husband developed some serious health problems, he became depressed and started spending more time with his computer and less time with me. At work, he started spending time with a longtime female work friend who was going through an unexpected divorce after a long marriage. At some point, my husband realized that spending time with his work friend might increase his happiness. I knew he was spending time with her…


“If hunger is not the problem, then food is not the answer.”

We all deal with stress and the Covid Pandemic has worsened stress for many of us. The “Covid 15” is real for many people who have had to work from home this past year, or have had to struggle with helping their children attend school from home, while taking care of their own daily needs. The inability to visit with friends, travel, or even take a break from family, has led to overeating and weight gain.

There are healthier ways than eating to handle stress. I used to…


“This is the last time I am losing my excess weight.” That is what I told my friends and myself frequently. I needed to make an eating plan that would both enable me to lose those extra 40 pounds, and also to maintain my weight loss for the rest of my life. This plan had to be easy to follow and satisfying. …


The first dietary change I made was changing from a very low fat, to a higher fat diet. I read “The Obesity Code” by Jason Fung and learned that higher levels of insulin made it much more difficult to lose weight. I also learned that fat intake did not affect insulin levels very much and that increased fat would help to decrease my hunger. I added nuts to my morning oatmeal, full fat salad dressings to my salads, regular mayonnaise, sour cream, butter, oil, and even dark chocolate (85% or higher) to my diet. …

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